Episode 4 - Grieving a Life-Limiting Diagnosis with Amy Balentine


Join us for a conversation with Amy Balentine about her story of receiving a life-limiting diagnosis for her son, Simon. Amy shares her journey of walking through Simon's pregnancy and the seven days he lived on earth before going to Heaven. After grieving Simon's death, Amy and her husband also lost three other babies early in pregnancy. Amy discusses with Ashley how this shaped her faith journey and why she has chosen to look for blessings in the middle of her suffering. She encourages grieving moms to lean on Jesus in the darkness of grief. In this episode, we discussed:

  • Navigating a life-limiting diagnosis in pregnancy

  • How to handle people who encourage you to "end the suffering"

  • Choosing life and letting the Lord decide when Simon would pass away

  • Why it's important to trust God to lead and carry you through this difficult season

  • The difference between miracles and tragedies

  • Finding blessings in the midst of suffering

  • How to surrender control and choose our reactions to unwanted circumstances

  • Faith statements and how we can teach our heart to feel what our brain knows to be true: "God is good even when my baby dies."

  • How to handle lonely, dark nights filled with worry when carrying a baby who is expected to pass away

  • Celebrating your baby's life even when you're sad

  • Ways to connect with and cherish your baby in your pregnancy

  • Amy's ministry You Made Me Mom and the importance of hospitality in pregnancy loss support groups

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Discussion / Application Questions (leave your answers below in the comments!)

  1. In this episode, we discussed the difference between earthly tragedies and Heavenly miracles. When viewing suffering through the lens of eternity, our perspective of our tragic stories can change. In your grief, what blessings have you witnessed in spite of the pain? Are there ways you can change your perspective?

  2. Amy shares the verse 2 Corinthians 12:9 about God's power being made perfect in our weakness. How does this verse resonate with you in letting Christ's power rest on you?

  3. If you are currently pregnant with a baby who has been given a life-limiting diagnosis, what advice in this episode was the most helpful? Write down a few ideas that will help you bond and connect with your baby. (If you have experienced this in the past, write down a few special memories you had with your baby as you reflect on your pregnancy and/or birth of your baby).

  4. Amy mentioned the faith statement: "God is good even when my baby dies." She talks about how it's hard to feel (in your heart) that this is true even though you know it in your mind. Do you struggle with questioning God's goodness? Write a letter to God sharing how you feel, and ask Him to help your "heart catch up to your head" like Amy said.

  5. We talked about the New Heaven and New Earth and Jesus' Second Coming. How does the hope of Heaven impact your grieving? Does the promise of eternity comfort your heart and in what ways?

  6. Amy mentioned that this is likely the hardest road you will ever have to walk through, but you don't have to go through it alone. She said that Jesus will carry you through. How can you surrender your grief to God and allow Him to carry the burden with you?

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Amy Balentine is the founder of You Made Me Mom, a nonprofit that supports grieving mothers.

Amy is a daughter of the King, wife to Adam, and mother to seven children. Three children are in her care while four reign in Glory.

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Ashley Opliger is the Executive Director of Bridget's Cradles, a nonprofit organization based in Wichita, Kansas that donates cradles to over 1,090 hospitals in all 50 states and comforts over 26,000 bereaved families a year.

Ashley is married to Matt and they have three children: Bridget (in Heaven), and two sons. She is a follower of Christ who desires to share the hope of Heaven with families grieving the loss of a baby.

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