Episode 2 - Finding Peace after Miscarriage with Alisha Illian


Join us for a conversation with Alisha Illian about how to find peace after miscarriage. Alisha shares her story of finding out that her second baby had no heartbeat while she was all alone at a routine doctor's appointment.

Blindsighted by grief, Alisha discusses with Ashley how she learned to rely on God and surrender her plans for her life. She encourages grieving moms to stay in Scripture and fixate on Jesus in order to find peace after pregnancy loss.

In this episode we discussed:

  • How God stretches us when life doesn't go as planned so that we can learn to depend on Him

  • Why are we not talking about pregnancy loss more?

  • Feelings of guilt after losing a baby

  • How God gave us a motherly instinct to bond with our baby right from the start

  • Why nothing can satisfy or comfort us like God can

  • Learning to surrender control and not depend on our own adequacy

  • Scripture memory and why it's a powerful healing tool during grief

  • The perfection of Jesus and how amazing Heaven will be with Him and our babies for all of eternity

  • The fact that our babies didn't have to suffer on earth

  • How hustle culture and staying busy can negatively impact our grief

  • Why it's important to get in our Bibles and read Truth

  • Alisha's ministry Women (re)Purposed and her book Chasing Perfect and how they can help you grow closer to God in grief

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Discussion / Application Questions (leave your answers below in the comments!)

  1. Alisha shares a quote from C.S. Lewis that says, "Pain makes us put away our toys." How do you relate to this quote? Are there ways that you are still relying on your own strength/adequacy or things of this world to cope with your grief? List them and pray for God to help you surrender them.

  2. Alisha clung to Psalm 139 after her miscarriage. Is there a particular Scripture that's comforting to you? Write it out and commit to memorizing it this week.

  3. In this episode, we talked about hurrying through grief. Do you feel a cultural or internal pressure to stay busy/distracted? In what ways can you slow down and allow God to sit in your sadness with you?

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Alisha is the founder of Women (re)Purposed, the author of Chasing Perfect, and an avid teacher and student of the Bible. Her heart beats wildly to inspire women toward a deeper knowledge and love of God.

Alisha experienced a first-trimester miscarriage in her second pregnancy. She lives in Kansas with her husband, three living children, and Golden-doodle dog.

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Ashley Opliger is the Executive Director of Bridget's Cradles, a nonprofit organization based in Wichita, Kansas that donates cradles to over 1,065 hospitals in all 50 states and comforts over 26,000 bereaved families a year.

Ashley is married to Matt and they have three children: Bridget (in Heaven), and two sons. She is a follower of Christ who desires to share the hope of Heaven with families grieving the loss of a baby.

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