PREGNANCY & INFANT LOSS REMEMBRANCE DAY
OCTOBER 15, 2021
6:30 PM | WICHITA, Kansas
Beech lake | 13th & WEBB
A NIGHT OF HOPE
Join us on October 15th for a community candlelight vigil and water lantern release amongst a light display featuring over 50,000 pink, blue, and white lights in memory of our babies in Heaven.
This is a free event for families who have experienced pregnancy or infant loss and their friends and family.
SHINE THEIR LIGHT
During the month of October Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month, we are holding a special Shine Their Light fundraising campaign.
We would be honored if you would fundraise on behalf of grieving families and help us reach our goal of raising $20,000.
A special night of hope & healing
We will walk through rows of beautiful lights together and hear our babies’ names during our Reading of the Names ceremony.
We will reflect on our babies' lives as we release water lanterns onto the lake.
"We Grieve with HOPE" Wave of Light t-shirts are also available for purchase online in pink, blue, and gray. Adult sizes only.
United in our heartache, we will light up the night together in remembrance of our babies in Heaven.
Together, we will grieve with HOPE!
Download our event flyer (and share it with your friends, or post it at your work or church)
Spread the Word
Watch the highlight films from our 2019 and 2020 Wave of Light events
general / EVENT FAQ
1. Is the Wave of Light event free to attend?
Yes, the Wave of Light event is free. We do accept donations and also have fundraising opportunities available for you to support the mission of Bridget's Cradles. In addition, at the event, there will be an opportunity to give so please feel free to bring a donation (cash, check, or credit card) to comfort bereaved families.
2. Do I have to be a bereaved parent to attend?
No, the Wave of Light event is also open to friends and family members of bereaved families. Bridget's Cradles volunteers and community members are also welcome to attend.
3. Do I need to register in order to attend?
Yes, you need to register in order to receive a confirmation email with a map, specific driving instructions, and additional details about the event. You will need to register in order to have your baby's name read at the event. Your family and friends do not need to register for the event. Please account for them in your registration number and pass along the event details to them over email.
4. What COVID-19 Precautions will you be taking?
This will be an all-outdoor event with plenty of room for social distancing and spacing out. We ask that you do not attend the event if you have any COVID-19 symptoms or have been exposed in the last 14 days. Our volunteers will follow this same protocol and will be using hand sanitizer. You are also welcome to wear a mask if you would like.
1. How do I order a t-shirt? How will I get it?
You can order your t-shirts here. They are $20/shirt + flat rate shipping.
T-shirts will be shipped directly to you from our t-shirt partner, The Distinct Ink.
2. What is the deadline to order t-shirts?
In order to receive your shirt in the mail before the event on October 15th, you will need to order by September 28th.
However, our t-shirt order form will remain open after September 28th, and you can order shirts anytime before or after the event until October 31st.
Please note that all shirts ordered after September 28th will not arrive until after the event. They will be delivered in November after all orders have been placed through October.
All t-shirts will be shipped directly to you from our t-shirt partner, The Distinct Ink.
3. Do I need to order a t-shirt in order to attend the event?
You do not need to order a shirt in order to attend the event. They are meant to supplement the event and raise awareness during October Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness month and all year long.
4. Can I order a t-shirt even if I am not attending the event?
Yes! Even if you do not plan to attend the event (e.g., you live out of state), you can buy a t-shirt! We designed the shirt to not be specific to Wichita so that anyone participating in the Wave of Light anywhere in the country can have one for October 15th and October Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness month.
5. Can I order the shirt with customization or personalization (e.g., adding my baby's name)?
No, the shirt designs cannot be modified and we are not offering customization. The shirts will be sold as-is, however, you are more than welcome to decorate/add to the shirt (e.g., the sleeves as you would like). The back of the shirt has the Bridget's Cradles logo, along with our corporate and memorial sponsors.
6. Do you have youth or infant/toddler sizes available?
No, this year we are only offering adult sizes.
Light sponsorship FAQ
1. How do I sponsor a cluster of lights in memory of a baby? What is included?
Please register here.
The cost of sponsoring a light cluster is $100 per cluster. Limit 4 per one bereaved family.
You will receive a special memorial certificate acknowledging your donation/participation.
There will be a sign in front of the cluster you sponsored with your baby's name.
After the event, we will send you a professional photo of your baby's light cluster/sign.
2. What is the deadline to sponsor lights?
October 8, 2021 or until all of the sponsorships are accounted for (given on a first-come, first-serve basis). The sponsorship form will automatically close when all of the clusters have been sponsored.
3. I have more than one baby in Heaven. Can I sponsor a cluster and have all of their names on the sign?
Yes, you can. We'd be honored to include all of your babies in Heaven on the sign. However, each cluster/sign can only be for one bereaved family's babies (i.e., multiple families cannot purchase a cluster together and share a sign).
4. My loss was early and we didn't name our baby. Can I still sponsor a cluster in their memory?
Yes, of course. Many people choose to use their last name such as Baby Smith or another name they call their baby.
5. Do I have to attend the event / live near Wichita, KS to sponsor lights in memory of a baby?
No, you can live anywhere in the country and you do not need to attend the event in order to sponsor lights. We will send you a picture of the sign of your baby's name in front of the light cluster you sponsored. Your baby's name will be included in the event program and you will receive a copy of the program in the mail after the event.
6. Do I get to pick the color of the light cluster (e.g., pink, blue, or white)?
We will do our best to assign your baby's light cluster color according to their gender (e.g., pink for girls, blue for boys, white for early or multiple losses). However, dependent on our sponsorship numbers and clusters, we may have to assign some sponsorships to white lights. The lights will be assigned on a first-come, first-serve basis so please register early.
7. Are the light clusters included in the Shine Their Light sponsorships / fundraising campaign?
No. Light sponsorships are separate from the Shine Their Light campaign. Clusters of lights do not come with higher-level sponsorships and/or fundraising. However, if you are holding a fundraiser and purchase a cluster of lights, your $100 donation per cluster can be designated to your fundraiser (and counted toward your fundraising goal). If you are wanting to donate $250 or more as a Shine Their Light sponsor (AND purchase a light cluster), please read FAQ #1 in the next section for more details.
shine their light fundraiser FAQ
1. What if I want to purchase a light cluster AND be a Shine Their Light sponsor and/or hold a fundraiser?
The Shine Their Light sponsors / fundraisers do not come with a light cluster, however, your purchase of a light cluster can go toward your Shine Their Light fundraiser goal. Therefore, if you are wanting to sponsor the event in memory of your baby (by either donating at a specific giving level or by fundraising to reach that level), you can purchase your light cluster when you register and then select your page or team at checkout so that your donation is credited to your overall goal.
For example, if you wanted to be a $1,000 level sponsor and have a light cluster, we would recommend purchasing the light cluster ($100), then adding on an additional $900 personal donation at check out. If you’d like to raise the additional $900 as a team (or raise funds beyond your personal donation), you can create a fundraising page or team and designate your donations toward your goal.
2. What is the difference between registering/fundraising "as an individual" versus "creating a team"?
When you register for the event and subsequently sign up to fundraise, you are given three options:
As an individual - Choose this option if you want to register or fundraise on your own (by yourself or as a couple). Friends and family can donate to your individual page and you can set a personal goal and hit milestones toward the Shine Their Light Memorial Sponsor campaign.
Join a team - Choose this option if you want to register or fundraise, but support someone else's team/goal. You will still be given an individual page, but your fundraising efforts will be going toward your team captain's goal. You will not be eligible for the benefits of the Memorial Sponsorship as your team captain will receive those should your team reach their goals.
Create a team - Choose this option if you plan to have "teammates" (friends and family) also fundraising with you on your behalf and want everyone fundraising for your same team. You will be the team captain and each person will have their own individual page, however, everyone's efforts will be credited to your team goal. Your team will be helping you reach the milestones toward the Shine Their Light Memorial Sponsor campaign. As the team captain, you will be receiving the benefits of the Memorial Sponsorship levels.
Whether you choose to fundraise as an individual or create a team, you will be working toward reaching your goal (either personal or team goal) and can reach the sponsor levels to qualify for the Memorial Sponsorship levels and win the Wave of Light award (the person or team who raises the most funds before the event). For teams, the team captains will be the ones who receive the benefits of the Memorial Sponsorship.
You are NOT required to fundraise in order to attend this event!
3. Can I donate with cash or check? Can my friends and family donate by cash or check and have it count toward my team fundraiser?
Yes! You or your team members (friends, family, etc) can donate by cash or check and we will manually enter it on the back-end of our fundraising website so that it will be credited to your team fundraiser. Simply mail a check to us and write your team name on the check. Mail to: PO Box 316, Kechi, KS 67067.
4. What are the deadlines associated with the benefits of the sponsorship levels?
October 1, 2021. This will give teams two weeks from 9/15 - 10/1 to donate and raise funds to meet these levels to receive the benefits of sponsorships at our event on October 15th (e.g., baby's name on our event t-shirts, program, banner, etc).
The Wave of Light Award winner will be the team that raises the most funds by 6:00 PM on Friday, October 15th, 2021. The winning team will be recognized at our Wave of Light event that evening and receive a special crystal award.
However, the fundraiser will continue through the end of the month of October so that we can continue to raise funds to comfort as many grieving families as we can.
For any additional questions, please email email@example.com.
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About Remembrance Day
Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day is a day of remembrance for pregnancy loss and infant death, which includes miscarriage, stillbirth, SIDS, or the death of a newborn. It is observed annually on October 15th in the United States and Canada and, in recent years, the United Kingdom and parts of Australia.
The Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Movement began in the United States in 1987. On October 25, 1988, American President Ronald Reagan designated the entire month of October 1988 as Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. The October 15th Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day (PAILRD) Campaign began in 2002 as an American movement started by Robyn Bear, Lisa Brown, and Tammy Novak. Together, they petitioned the federal government, as well as the governors of each of the 50 states, and by October 15, 2002 (the first observance of PAILRD), 20 states had signed proclamations recognizing the date as such. As a result of the American campaign effort, Concurrent Resolution 222, Supporting the goals and ideals of National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day was passed in the House of Representatives on September 28, 2006. To date, all 50 American states have yearly proclamations, with Arkansas, Kansas, Kentucky, Louisiana, Missouri, New York, Rhode Island, and South Dakota adopting permanent proclamations. (Source)
About International Wave of Light
The day is observed with remembrance ceremonies and candle-lighting vigils, concluding with the International Wave of Light, a worldwide lighting of candles at 7:00 p.m. The International Wave of Light invites participants from around the world to light a candle in honor of PAILRD, starting at 1900 hours on October 15 in their respective time zones, and to leave the candle burning for at least an hour. The result is a continuous chain of light spanning the globe for a 24-hour period in honor and remembrance of the children who pass away during pregnancy or shortly after birth. (Source)
"When a child loses his parent, they are called an orphan.
When a spouse loses her or his partner, they are called a widow or widower.
When parents lose their child, there isn’t a word to describe them."
-Ronald Reagan, October 1988